Would You Peek?

Would You Peek?

 So I recently got SnapChat. The reason I got it is completely different than how it ends up being used. (Not a complaint, I actually LOVE it!) OK, so we all know most people do not want pictures of themselves floating around the web. Also most people, while they may wish to share a photo of something fun, creative, playful, or just silly... Most are very reluctant to share any photo because of how they already know too many photos end up surfacing when and where they did not want them visible. 

Enter SnapChat. An app that allows the user to take, and send a photo that will self-destruct after it has been viewed. (the sender has the option to save their own photo before it is sent, but not after. The sender also cannot even view their own sent photo. Also, the server does not and will not store any photos sent on the app. (yes, there have been lawsuits to gain access to the photos allegedly sent, and there really are not any photos saved.) This is where many people who otherwise would not take, or send a photo of themselves find a joy, a thrill, a freedom, a playfulness, and a new-found braveness. To know they can take, and send any photo to a friend, and that photo will never be seen again. ...

Well in theory. Because the person receiving the photo can screenshot it. But Snapchat notifies the sender of a screenshot has been captured. If you know and trust the one you are sending it to, there is not a worry.

With anything we do in life, there is a level of risk. Trust is also a factor. As with anything, there is the possibility your photo could be seen by someone not intended. Yes, of course, there are ways for people to get around the screenshot notification. There are even videos (and you can find them in The Snapchat help section) about how to outsmart the technology. Or even so simply as the receiver could take a picture of their screen with another camera. But hopefully the one you call friend is also true enough that they are not going to do you harm. So, this opens up the freedom to take and send pictures to one, or many people that you know will self-destruct in a pre-set by you number of seconds.

All my life, I have found that given the right circumstances, many will do things privately that they never would do publicly, also that they likely would never admit to anyone. Again, this boils down to trust. Trust can bring so much joy, freedom, and pleasure. Trust can allow chains to be broken, walls to be knocked down, and allow two people to test their own inhibitions, desires, and boundaries. Most people who get to know me quickly find out that if someone tells me, shows me, or shares with me something that is intended just between us, that nobody else ever knows (unless the one who asked me to keep it private decides to share their own secret).

 SnapChat is very much the same... It is no secret that I love the human body. I do not see it as shameful, or ugly, or anything that should be hidden. All my life, I have loved learning how the body works, what it looks like, feels like, and how each views their own. To me the body is an incredible machine, a mystery, and something that we can never fully understand. I do not see the body as sexual, nor do I view any part as forbidden, secret, obscene, or 'dirty'. I would let anybody who is curious see, touch, learn, and be curious about my own. Likewise, others treat me the same. If I am curious about theirs, they do not hide.

 To me, naked is nothing weird, embarrassing, or new. Sure, clothing creates the greatest of illusions. And often creating illusion is more alluring than naked is. Illusion, or a partial-view often creates more curiosity, more imagination, more playful-ness than fully naked ever will for me.

 And THAT Brings up the question in the above photo: Would You Peek? The answer is "Of Course!" When someone (myself included) gets the courage to allow something to be seen that they have traditionally been told needs to be hidden, they seek approval. Often when someone creates a "peek", a "possible-view" or even a creative angle on a part they had normally hidden, it is done with a bit of fear, apprehension, and "what if?". So of course when on snapchat, someone sends one of these, (or in person, decides to uncover themselves) their first question is "Did You Peek??" (and they themselves wonder "am I ok with this?... Omigosh, I just sent a photo that I am not sure if it is ok, or will I offend, or should I be offended that the person looked, or enjoyed, or... omigosh, what will happen?" )

But when they find that there was nothing that happened in a bad way. So, it becomes "Hmm, that was fun!, That was freeing/ liberating/ exciting/ felt good... What else can I do?"

 I have Two Questions for you: First: what would you be OK with Me sending you (Or more defined, Is there a desire you wish me to send but were afraid to say?) Second: What would you send to me? (or more defined, is there something you would send if you knew it would not be mocked, or would not offend me?) For the Record: Unless someone is being deliberately harmed, there is Nothing that could offend me. Really, there is not.

If someone wants to test their own boundaries, freedoms, explorations, and desires, I encourage it. I encourage creativity, playfulness, learning, imagination, and freedom.

 Why am I writing this today? Because last night I snapchatted a great friend for over two hours. We got creative, laughed, enjoyed, and each tested our own desires, boundaries, and acceptance. Nope, I will not tell ya what our snaps were, nor will I tell ya who it was. Just like in any other part of my life, I keep the trust, and will not blab. (but on that note, since I am so open about my own life, I know when I share these joys with the other, they are free to tell and share.) I know if I send a photo, text, etc, the person receiving it likely will have a significant other, close friend, or even random stranger next to them, and when they laugh, they likely will be showing/ sharing with the person next to them. Yup, I am totally ok with that, since I would never ask someone to hide my relationship with them. (They know I am not with others, and will keep their life private. I know they are not alone, and sharing is part of who they are.)

Also of curious note: I fully expect others to screenshot, save, and share my own photos, yet I likely would never copy one they sent me. There is one exception: If it is just a silly cartoon, not revealing anything about who they are, or any identifying items/ views that would tell others who I got it from. Here is a great example of what I would screenshot, and save:

This photo is one I DID screenshot. I absolutely Love the fun this captures! It is creative,playful, teasing, and pushing the boundaries of what this person would actually allow another to view. The humor in it was just too perfect!! (Not to mention the drawing is wonderful!!)


This photo came because I posted my own silly "Selfie of Me In the Bath"... See below...











This photo of the skeleton in the bath is not mine. It is the Creation of http://www.nickveasey.com/, and I am just borrowing it :)


How about You? Do You Snapchat? and Would you Peek? Join Me! My Snapshat Name is "halfaniceday" ~=:-) Oh, and by the way, Yes, I do send and receive plenty that are not along the lines of "if you show me yours, I will show you mine"...

Ha! Along the lines of "If You Show Me Yours, I Will Show You Mine"... That, like so many things in life has sooo many double-meanings. You can choose to interpret it in any way you find fits. It could simply be Your Smile. You send me a photo of your face, I likely will send you one of my face. You send a photo of your food, you likely will get a photo of my food. You send me a photo of your sunrise, I will likely send yo a photo of my sunrise. Send me a photo of your moon, I might be tempted (notice I said tempted) to send a photo of my bare butt, since the play on words is so fun! But unless I know you are OK with seeing my Butt, I will not until I know you are ok with that. I will always assume you do not. So If you want to see more, just say so... Or along the lines of "If You Show me Yours..." Send me something playful, maybe not even completely revealing, to give me a hint. I enjoy hints.

Now I will leave you with a funny cartoon:



Of Course it Is just a funny cartoon... Those who know me, know whether or not they could touch. But the same goes as the whole thing above about Is It OK? Well, just like the photo, texting, etc... if you want to know, just ask.

A BEAR (or is it BARE) In The Desert!

A BEAR (or is it BARE?) InThe Desert!

How would You React to Seeing a Bear, or BARE in The Desert?

“At Least I Know I Will Not Run Into Any Bears while hiking in The Desert.”

That is what I told a friend the day before I went hiking in The Desert…AND ACTUALLY RAN INTO A BEAR!

While at work, a friend and I were discussing the differences between hiking in the mountains, and hiking in the desert. We were discussing the different things you might encounter in the different regions of The U.S. The topic of snakes, critters, and other dangers came up. The possibilities of what one may encounter while in remote regions, and the dangers that could harm someone while hiking are as varied as the different types of regions. I am an avid hiker/ trekker/ explorer. I have been all my life. I am always curious, and want to learn what lives in any region, and the dangers those critters (big or small) may present to a Human. I do not have fear (usually) of these critters, but I DO Have Respect for them! If one goes through life in fear, they will likely forget to enjoy what nature has to offer, and often make tragic mistakes. Fear blocks the mind, and does not allow one to make logical, sensible decisions when faced with the danger. Understanding, and knowing what to do is a key to surviving what nature holds.

While discussing this subject, we were also discussing all the new things there were to learn, and understand. I had just recently moved from Oregon to Las Vegas. I have previously been in many different regions of The U.S., but The Mojave Desert is new territory for me. We were discussing how different snakes behave, how different spiders, and other crawling critters behave. I am quite familiar with snakes, and spiders. Scorpions are another story. I expressed that I was actually looking forward to finding Tarantulas, Scorpions, and some of the snakes I had not previously encountered. My friend mentioned that those are scary, and a good reason to NOT Go out in The Desert. I find those to only be a threat if you are not aware they are there. Awareness is a huge key to not getting hurt. I would rather hike with those than where the bears are. Bears are beautiful, and I have hiked around them most of my life. Bears are also THE ONE THING that Scares me! I have had bear-surprises more times than was comfortable. I have always done what one is supposed to do, when a bear is suddenly face-to-face with you, and never had a bad thing happen from a bear. Even camping, or backpacking, I have woken to bears in my camp, and even looking right at me through the tent-door. But I ALWAYS took the needed precautions, keeping food away from the tent, hung from a tree, and made sure to never wear food-smelling clothes into the tent. I Have had some scares, but never more from a bear.

When I was leaving work that day, and knowing I was going hiking the next day, My friend told me to “Be safe, and watch for the deadly critters while naked out there!” I laughed, and replied, “At least I know I will not run into any bears in The Desert.” Ha! Famous last words!

Well, I DID See a BEAR While Hiking in the Desert!
The funny thing is, There was BARE, and BEAR! Yup! While Hiking naked, I also found a BEAR!


Ya gotta love the humor of some people! I was at least five miles from the nearest anything, and suddenly, here is a recliner-chair, and a Giant Stuffed Bear! I am sure many would find it odd to see someone hiking totally naked in the 120-degree heat in the middle of a Desert. What I found unusual was that someone would go to the effort to haul a chair, and a stuffed animal out here. They set the bear up in the chair, on a small hill, overlooking the valley, and facing Sunrise Mountain. It would seem the bear has been out there for many years, and is quite content to sit and bake all day in the sun. He has a great view, and watches the sunrise every morning. He gets to see all the critters come and go. I am sure he sees his share of intrepid hikers go by, and probably has seen more than one could possibly imagine.

This bear is crusty with what nature has dealt him in this harsh environment. He has been through blazing heat in the summer, and below-freezing temperatures in the winter. I guess that would answer the life-long question about whether or not bear meat can in fact be frozen, then thawed, and still remain good! This bear seems to have been frozen, thawed, and baked to a golden-brown hundreds of times. And while He seems to be a little on the weathered side, He still seems quite content to sit here, and watch the sunrise every day. He has seen His share of flash-floods as they wash below his perch. He has withstood many freak- storms, as The Desert is known for sudden, and even violent Thunderstorms. He has seen rain, and likely is still wet inside from the soakings, and probably has dents in his head from the hail that has come. I am sure He has made friends with many scorpions, ants, snakes, and other assorted Desert Critters.

It makes me laugh to ponder all the possible reasons this bear was placed here, and the circumstances, and events that happened in the process of him being placed here. I can imagine the hilarity that followed, and even the many visits those people have made back out to visit this bear. I can imagine all the photos of this bear, and all the varied people that have posed with him. I can imagine the surprise, wonder, and humor that every single person who has stumbled upon him has enjoyed. I can imagine the caution, yet curiosity of the wild animals that live out here. Imagine the Coyote that comes out for his evening hunt, and suddenly finds this bear in a chair. Imagine the process that coyote goes through for endless hours trying to figure out this new thing. Is it safe? Why does it smell like Humans? Why does it not move? Why is it here? Is it edible? And, imagine as this timid Coyote is edging closer to this new thing, the breeze suddenly makes a bit of it wiggle, and the coyote jumps a foot high!

 I laugh at the possibility that this may have actually been placed with a hidden camera, and they are filming everyone and everything that comes near. (Picture me discreetly scanning my surroundings for a hidden camera.) Often we go places, and do things which we likely would be less eager to do, if We KNEW there was a camera. It gives me a laugh, though, and then rather than worrying about IF There was a camera, my mind turns to: “I wonder where I can see the footage they capture?” While most of what I do anymore in life would not change one bit, camera, or not, I still think occasionally like I did when I lived a Secret naked life. I am not secretive about much anymore. I have learned to embrace who I am, and What I do. While many think naked is somehow illegal, it is absolutely not. I do not do anything that could get me arrested, nor will I do anything that could land me in jail. (Simply naked is not illegal. For it to be illegal, it must be either Lewd, or Obscene… or both. The trouble comes when Most Do NOT understand the laws, and automatically think naked by itself is illegal, and even harmful. I simply enjoy as much of life as is practical without clothes. I seldom am where groups of people will see me, and the few that do are quite welcoming, because of how I go about it.)

(Not Sure You Are Comfortable Seeing Photos of Me Enjoying Life Nekkid?)

Look at your own level of comfort:

Here, you see many photos of me Bare with The Bear. I did not include anything too revealing. I was having a ball, and had not a care in the world while out there. I do not hide the fact that I love life naked.

My slogan in life (and the name of my blog) is: “Enter With An Open Mind, Or Closed Eyes”. I have found that when given a choice as to how much you view, or not, most find it quite welcoming, comfortable, and even funny. Many in my life who had previously thought naked was bad have been happy, and even comfortable around me while I am enjoying life in this way. For those of you who have seen me struggle and accept who I am in the past, can appreciate how much growth I have discovered along the way. I have written many blogs about the troubles, and torment I have been through. Rather than list a dozen links, You can just look to the list of labels to the right;
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 Pick any label you want to see more of my thoughts on, and it will take you to the blogs. So far None of my blogs show any nudity. This is the first which shows any at all. The blog may discuss naked, and tell about it, but it is not to force anything on anybody. I like to let people discover for themselves what level of comfort is good for them. I have started the blog exploring what makes me who I am, and the struggles of what has brought me to where I currently am. Naked is a huge part of who I am, and What I do. Those who accept me into their lives do so at their own comfort level. BARE In The Desert is a major part of my life, since I currently live in a desert. Humor is also a huge part of my life. Thus, Bear, or Bare in The Desert is very fitting.

Many times, I have discovered that people want to explore naked in a “secret”, safe environment. That is another reason I freely make my photos available for all who play nice to view. Many people are not sure they want to see someone Bare in person, so they look through my photos first, and decide from there, it IS indeed safe, and even comfortable. (every photo in my blogs links to My Flickr phot account.) Feel free to explore at your own level of comfort…(and also know there is no way for anyone to know you were even there. The ONLY time I know who visits my pages is when they choose to leave a comment. There will NEVER be anything illegal, sexual, or even anything that is not family-friendly. You want to look, but cannot see what you want? Or You see more than you wish? My profile in Flickr details how to control what you do, or do not see. How much you see, or not is completely up to you. There are many levels of comfort. What you do is entirely your choice.)

I Hope You found joy, humor, and even comfort in discovering a BEAR (OR IS IT BARE?) In The Desert!
I Hope you have a SAFE and Wonderful day, and Thank you for Entering with an open mind, or closed eyes! JOn ~=:-)