It’s Memorial Weekend… Get Naked on the roof!
(Don’t Most People Sunbathe Naked with their neighbors on a
Rooftop on Memorial Day?) ~=:-)
Memorial Day Weekend stirs many memories, feelings, and
moods. It has so many meanings for so many different reasons. Aside from the
Actual meaning, and the reason for this American Holiday, it has seemingly
taken on more of a celebration long weekend. It has become the unofficial
“Beginning of Summer”. It has become a time for Travel, Sunshine, Vacations, BBQ’s, Family Gatherings, or any number of
other things people can celebrate on a three-day weekend. (And I am in no way
attempting to gloss-over the significance, and meaning of this day. There are
plenty of things written about that, and you are welcome to seek them out at
your leisure. This happens to be about My Life, and some of the important
events which have made me who I am.)
Yes, I happen to be one of those who just the mention of
Memorial Day makes me smile, and wish I was still living in Virginia… and Naked
on the rooftop!
As memorial weekend arrives, I am reminded of the time a several
neighbors and I decided to sunbathe naked on the roof of our apartment building…
And all the wonderful events that happened as a result.
This happened in May of 2006. I arrived in Charlottesville, Virginia
in September of 2005. It is a long story, but I pretty much just ran away from
life as I had known it in Oregon. I was on a path of destruction, and
simultaneously, a path of re-discovering who I am, and re-learning how to live.
I had gone down an incredibly rough, and horrific road of life that caused the
conflicts of trying to be who I really am to clash brutally with who I had
pretended to be for so many years. After 24 years of hiding and not wanting
anybody to ever see me naked, I finally reached a point where I came out again
as the true nudist I was. I was a happy nudist until the age of twelve. Then I
had to go into hiding. I lived a life of being a secret nudist until I was 36.
That was when I finally came out again. (You can read more about “My Coming out
of the (Naked) Closet” Here:) http://enterwithanopenmindorclosedeyes.blogspot.com/2011/09/coming-out-of-naked-closet.html
After a not-so-healthy path of many attempted suicides, and
other destructive behavior (yes, even compared to suicide, I managed to come up
with other destructions in my life… I am creative, what can I say) J But along the way, I
somehow managed to discover more of what was actually positive, healthy, and
made me feel alive, free, and safe! (And, Yes… I do see the irony in the fact
that while trying to kill myself, I also learned more about how to live! Ya
talk about a conflict in the mind, heart and soul… well, welcome to my life!)
Part of coming to accept who I was, meant facing it head-on,
never denying it, and never being ashamed of it. I had to learn that for others
to accept me, I also had to accept myself. I also had to learn that I would not
please everyone. I had to understand that there would be risks, and often many
who had been close to me would not welcome who I really was. People are funny
about how they view nakedness. Some people can never accept another human
simply naked, and will decide that they wish to no longer associate with you.
Many people will say they accept it, but they are still very uncomfortable, and
often not willing to say so, since they know how important it is to you. And,
there are those who never even blink twice, or seem to notice you are naked. To
these people, naked is safe, comfortable, and a normal occurrence.
In the path of discovering who I really was, and finding how
to live my life in an acceptable, comfortable, safe existence meant searching
deep, and taking a few risks. It also meant finding a place to live where this
lifestyle would be accepted. I am not so sure I am the one who found my new
home in Charlottesville, but rather, I believe it was found for me, and I was
‘led’ to it.
One day, I will write more in detail about my path of
suicide attempts, and other destructions. (These, too, are not exactly easy to
embrace, nor easy to put into words. Recently, though, I have found I am strong
enough to actually talk again about these events in my life. )
How did I end up in Virginia? And more importantly, how did
I end up at This Apartment building where I could get naked on the roof on
Memorial Day? Well, the short, simple answer would be: “God.” Yup, I know, that
is a short answer… but possibly not so simple. God is more complicated than
anything you or I could ever wish to comprehend. I ended up in Charlottesville
twice. The first time, I thought I was just passing through. The second time
was because the Sheriff brought me back here.
When I knew I had exactly only 30-miles more I could travel
in my car before I was completely out of gas, and had no more money to get any
more gas, I looked at the map, and chose Charlottesville as the place I would
abandon my car. I figured the mileage exactly, and as I parked in a parking
garage, intent on abandoning the car, it was sputtering and just about to have
not a drop of gas left. I chose to take the railroad tracks from there. In the
next 24-hours, I managed to attempt suicide a dozen more times. Yes, attempt…
as you can see, I did not succeed. God decided I was not yet allowed to
die. Also in that 24-hours I managed to
hike over 40-miles. After the final suicide attempt, I was mad! I was mad and
angry that I could not be allowed to die. But at the same time, I was mad and
angry that I had allowed myself to get to that point. (And even though I am not
going into extreme detail in this post about my attempts, do not assume they
were feeble, mild attempts. The attempts I made are horrific, will chill you,
and make you understand how mighty God Really is! THE ONLY REASON I Am STILL
Alive is Because God would not Let Me Choose death.) I knew instantly I had to drastically change
my path, and break this pattern. I called the Sheriff to come get me.
I knew that by calling the Sheriff on myself meant I could
be possibly locked-up, but I also knew it would be the sudden interruption to
the path I was on. After The Sheriff talked with me a bit, He decided to take
me back to Charlottesville. He took me to a lock-up ward of the Psychiatric
hospital. I was there a total of only two nights, and one full day. (The
events, tests, interviews, and interactions of what happened in those 36 hours
are another whole story all in themselves.) They found housing for me at The
Salvation Army Shelter. When they released me, I still wished I could die, and
I never denied it. I made it very clear that I wanted to die, but knew I could
not until God decided it was time for me to go. They thought it was very
interesting how I was The Only person EVER to be released while still
professing to want to die. I will not deny that, even to this day, almost
7-years later. But I knew then, and I know now, it is not something I can
choose to make happen. I fully understood how much they might lock me up for
eternity for these views. But they also saw the logic in my understanding. They
knew as well as I did that I would not attempt to kill myself again. I would
just wait until God decided it was time.
For those short 36-hours I was in the Psych ward, I was open
and not at all hiding my naked lifestyle. (Yes, I had to be somewhat modest
depending on others I was near in the ward.) But I also was allowed to be
myself, too. I knew I had found how I needed to live, if even in a Psych Ward,
they did not try to talk me out of my views, or make me hide who I was. When
they sent me to The Salvation Army, I had to keep this part of who I was mostly
hidden. Actually, while there, it proved to be a less-than-safe environment, so
I had to just survive. I knew it would be temporary. I got a job immediately,
and a coworker needed a roommate, so he invited me to move from The Shelter to
live with him and his wife. At their home, I could be myself. They did not mind
if I was naked. But I was still a bit unsure about my new home, and the
surroundings, so I did not allow myself to be freely naked all the time. I did
not worry, or try to determine if it was safe, or not. I just simply went about
life without trying to make it so I could be naked, and found that when I was,
it was no big deal. After a couple of months, I managed to get my own
apartment. That was the freedom I needed! (Every step in the process of getting
my own apartment was obviously needed, and an important part in finding where I
needed to be.)
(I write in detail about this apartment and the beginnings
of my freedom in this blog): “Oops! I Forgot to Put Clothes On!” http://enterwithanopenmindorclosedeyes.blogspot.com/2011/12/oops-i-forgot-to-put-clothes-on.html
I got that apartment in October of 2005. By the time May,
and Memorial Day of 2006 came around, the entire neighborhood was quite used to
naked activity. The owners, and maintenance people were also used to seeing me
naked, and nobody ever cared. At first, there was only one other tenant living
in the building. She was 42, and her name was Sandy. (I was 38, so we were
similar in age.) Sandy and I became great friends almost immediately. (She said
she had a boyfriend, but he was in jail, and even once he got out, it could be
months before he decided to come visit her. I gathered he was a jerk, and she
was better-off while he was not around.) Prior to meeting me, she had never
found a male she could trust, or feel comfortable and safe around. Needless to
say, she also had huge issues with naked, due to how most men behaved. But upon
meeting me, she found comfort in both. From the very first time she met me, we
felt comfortable and safe around each other. She never cared that I was naked,
but she would not hang-out naked herself. A few weeks after I moved in, another
tenant moved in. Lucy was a 22-year old college girl, an artist, and studying
architecture. When Lucy moved in, she also met me while I was naked, and was
totally excited to find another who was openly naked, and not ashamed. Her
boyfriend did not understand the naked lifestyle, but he did not complain
either.
Charlottesville was a college town, and my apartment
building was located smack in the middle of campus. The block I lived-in was
quite a mix of housing, varying from dorms, to frat houses, to sorority houses,
to apartments, and even regular houses. Among these were also some of the
buildings which had classrooms in them. We also had small businesses, and
administration offices scattered throughout the neighborhood. It was hardly a
secluded area, nor was it only one type of person who lived here. While it was
a college-town, and had many building which were strictly student-housing,
there were also places where anyone could rent. It was a wonderful mix of every
race, religion, age, gender, and culture. It was also a very comfortable,
accepting, and safe neighborhood. The area was patrolled by both The University
police, And the city police regularly. As long as nobody harmed another, you
could pretty much do as you pleased, and the police never worried about it.
Simply naked was not at all illegal, and even when the police would come by,
they would wave, smile, and sometimes chat. They liked to get to know the
neighborhood, and were not there to harass anyone, just uphold the law.
This neighborhood was a hilly-section of town, so almost
every building overlooked another nearby. My building was a three-story
building, with a flat roof. On one side was a Frat house. On the other side was
a Sorority house. In front was a University Arts building. In back were
assorted student-dorm apartments, regular apartments, and assorted old houses
converted into varying student housing, or shared housing by non students. Most
of the buildings had balconies, porches, and windows which happened to be
either close to another building, or overlooked one below them on the hill.
Most of the surrounding common areas were easily visible from almost any
building in the neighborhood. Needless to say, it was hardly a place with
secluded privacy. But in a place where acceptance and comfort were welcomed,
nobody really worried about who could see them when they were doing something
outdoors, or in view of an open window.
Shortly after moving in, I discovered there was a fold-down
stairway that led to the roof of my apartment building. The roof was flat, and
other than a couple of Air conditioner units, and vent-pipes, it was wide-open.
It was literally wide-open! It was flat to the edge. There were no rails,
walls, or even ridges. It was simply a flat, wide-open area forty feet above
the ground! To my mind, this meant it was The Perfect Place to relax, escape
the world below, and just have a peaceful place. But I also knew that the
owners, and maintenance people would not like tenants to be up there. (There
would be too many safety risks, or liability issues which by law, they could
not knowingly allow to happen.) But since the fold-down stairs were not locked,
and they were in a public stairwell, and easily accessed by anyone who happened
to be able to reach the handle that was ten feet above the floor, I decided I
was allowed to go up there. There also were no signs stating to keep off the
roof. And I double checked my contract, too. Nowhere in the rental contract did
it state we could not go up on the roof. I just would make sure I went up only
late at night, or on the weekends when I knew they would not likely show up at
the building.
This fold-down staircase was located literally above, and in
front of Sandy’s door. That is how I discovered it. While visiting Sandy one
day, I asked what that was. She had lived there for many years, but had never
noticed it. I jumped-up, and pulled the handle, and the stairs folded down. I
had discovered a hidden passage!! The stairs were rickety, and only came to
about five feet from the floor, so they were hardly safe, or sturdy. I was able
to climb up onto them, and then go up, lift off the covering of the stairwell,
and explore the roof. Sandy was not keen on heights, but she was curious. There
was no way she could get up there, though, so I went downstairs and got my
ladder so she could at least reach the stairs. I helped her cautiously climb
up, and she was excited to peer over the edge of the opening onto the roof, but
would not leave the stairs to actually go all the way up. I helped her back
down, then went up again. It was November, and cold out, so I was not naked at
first.
After exploring the entire roof, and loving how wonderful it
was, I told Sandy I needed to do a naked dance. She told me to wait, cuz she
needed to watch! (She never joined me in hanging out naked, but enjoyed the joy
I found in it. She never made me uncomfortable, either… in fact it was just the
opposite! She made me very comfortable when she was around and I was naked!) She
was just beginning to allow herself to actually not hate seeing somebody naked,
and wanting to explore this newfound freedom. I understood how much it meant
for her to share in my naked joy. I went back to assist her in getting up to
the stairs again, but she had decided that since it was so important for me to
do a naked dance, that she found the courage to get up there all by herself!
She still would not get all the way up on the roof, but got herself up to the
opening where she could watch! I looked around to see if it was safe to strip.
(meaning if I would be seen, or if I would freak anybody out) Ha! This roof was
way more visible than the parking lot was where I made my first (and
accidental!) naked debut outside in this neighborhood! Every balcony, window,
porch, or doorway in this neighborhood overlooked this roof! This roof was
totally visible from the dorms located just down the hill, and even visible to
anyone on the street out front. It was safe to say that this was the absolute
least private place on the entire block! I noticed several people were already
watching what I was up to. But since I had already met my neighbors about a
week before when I accidentally went to the dumpster naked (see the above
mentioned blog for the details on that!), I decided I was free to be me! I
stripped, and danced across that entire roof! Sandy was howling with delight,
several neighbors were taking pictures, the sorority girls had gathered on
their balcony, and even people walking by had stopped to smile. I was thrilled
that I could dance naked under the stars, be free, safe, and not have a worry
in the entire world! (except perhaps frostbite, and frozen bits…) It was so
exhilarating, I gathered my clothes from the pile on the roof, and tossed them
over the edge. They would be down on the ground by my own apartment once I went
back down. I had found an incredible secret (yet hardly secret) place of
escape! I just marveled at how free it was up there. The frigid cold night air
was invigorating. As I took it all in, and watched the world below, I was taken
back to when I was twelve, and that very last night as a kid at my Gramma’s house,
naked up in the tree, watching the world below. (You can read about that in
this blog “Surprise! Your Family Moved Out of State While you were at
camp!”): http://enterwithanopenmindorclosedeyes.blogspot.com/2011/09/surprise-your-family-moved-out-of-state.html
After a while naked on the roof, I finally came back to the
present time, and decided it was really cold, so I went down. Sandy and I went
into her apartment for a bit. We enjoyed each other’s company, and often did
not want to go our separate ways. She could see how cold I had gotten, so
offered for me to take a hot shower. This, too was not uncommon for us. She
enjoyed coming and talking to me while I showered in my own apartment. But this
was the first time I had showered in hers. It felt wonderful to have gotten
naked, danced on the cold rooftop, then get cozy-warm again in her hot shower. She told me how wonderful it was to watch me
find freedom, escape the daily world, and not have any shame, fear, or feel the
need to hide who I was. She told me, and
I saw the freedom in her own eyes, too how much it meant for her to allow
herself to be near a naked man, and not freak-out. She told me some of how the
neighbors reacted, and how positive they all were about seeing me up there too!
In this neighborhood, I had discovered people really accepted others. I had
found my place.
I made it a point to go up on the roof as much as possible
without getting myself in trouble. I never really tried to keep it a secret,
just was cautious about over-doing it. It was always a treat when I could go
up, but being that it was winter, it was not often a priority. Winter in
Virginia was definitely prohibitive in nudity for prolonged periods outdoors.
Using the roof seemed more of a sunny, warm kind of thing.
When Lucy had moved in, she and I connected immediately,
too. She first met me while I was painting my apartment on a ladder while
naked. Since the door was open, and she was an artist, she was intrigued by the
colors she saw inside. She could hear me singing happily along to my music, and
felt it was perfectly acceptable to just walk on in. She was correct. She had
just started moving in the day before, and was bringing more stuff this time.
Only after talking for a bit, getting to know one another, did I ask her if she
minded that I was naked. She laughed and said she was actually really happy to
discover both an artist, and a naked one at that living in her new building.
She stayed a while, and we chatted, getting to know more about each other. I
continued painting, and she was excited to watch some of my technique. I asked
if she was hungry, since I was about to order a pizza. She was more than eager
to accept some free pizza! (She was totally the image of a starving artist/
college student trying to make it on her own!... well, mentally, and
financially she was a starving artist. Her body clearly was not anorexic, nor
unhealthy.) She went back upstairs, to start settling in to her new apartment.
By now, the pizza delivery people were very used to seeing
me naked. I worked for Dominos, and ordered from Dominos, so these delivery
people were coworkers, and quite familiar with who I was. After the pizza
arrived, I took it upstairs, still totally naked, to her apartment. She
cautiously opened the door, and peeked around it. Then, noticing it was me,
opened it fully to show me why she had hidden behind the door. She, too had
stripped completely naked, and was not quite sure of the feel of the
neighborhood yet. She had told me in light conversation downstairs that she was
happy to have her own place so she could enjoy being naked whenever she wanted
without worrying about family, or uptight roommates. I was not totally
surprised to see her naked, but I was a bit. I had gotten used to others seeing
me, and building my own comfort, confidence, and security, but I had not yet
had many that would also be naked around me. Knowing that she had gotten naked specifically for my visit told me right away she was also as comfortable, safe, and free as I was. It was clear she cherished her naked time, and was happy to have this opportunity to strip, and get a feel for the neighborhood. She still looked a bit nervous, and I was not quite sure why. After she closed the door, I told
her she would be safe, and comfortable in this neighborhood completely naked. She
commented that it must be safe, since I could get pizza delivered while naked! I
told her it was only Sandy, Myself, and now Her as tenants, so we pretty much
got to establish the way the place was. I also told her the owners, and
maintenance people, and even the mail lady were comfortable with my nakedness. That seemed to put her at ease, a bit, but she still had a bit of a nervous edge, and I could tell there was more bugging her, but could not place it yet.
Lucy did not have much in the way of furnishings, and had no
table, or chairs. I told her that was fine, and noted my apartment did not
either. She was happy that I was not expecting full furnishings. But I was
totally excited that she had a full-sized cow-skin rug on her floor! It was
truly the hide of an entire black-and-white cow! We decided to sit on the cow
to have our pizza! This time, I was the one a bit nervous… she was used to, and
comfortable being naked on her cow. I had never before had my bare skin on the
fur of an animal! She giggled at my new-found joy. It was then that she revealed why she was herself so nervous: She loved to be naked, but was used to people staring, ogling and looking at her body in a way that made her uncomfortable. She took a big risk in stripping for me on the first day we met. She said she could tell I was safe, but not so sure I would not react to her body when I saw it naked. In those few minutes before I came up with the pizza, she said she had stripped, then gotten dressed, and then stripped again, just as I came to her door. She was indecisive if she really wanted to have me see her naked so soon. Since she happened to have just stripped again as I showed-up, she decided to "go for it", and take the risk. She told me that she was pleasantly surprised to see that I never stared at her, or ogled her. It did not take long before
we became close friends, also! I told Lucy about the roof, but since it was
mid-day during a weekday when owners and maintenance people tended to come
around, I did not show her how to get up there yet. I did take her upstairs to
meet Sandy, though. She was not sure about going up to meet her while naked,
but trusted I would not lead her into trouble.
Sandy did not even flinch when she opened the door to see Lucy and Me both
naked. I told her I wanted to introduce our new neighbor. Lucy was a bit
nervous, but Sandy put her at ease immediately. We all stayed and chatted a bit
in Sandy’s apartment, then each went home to tend to our own homes, and the
projects at hand.
In no time, I had shown Lucy how to get up to the roof, too! She already knew all the girls in the Sorority House, and having them see her naked up there was no surprise to them either.She enjoyed it as much as I did, but we both understood we needed to not
over-use it, for fear of losing the privilege. For many months, the three of us
were the only tenants in the building. The building had 9 units, so there was
always the expectation we would have more neighbors. But, meanwhile we had
established seniority, and anybody that came in would know that nudity was the
normal, not the exception. Sandy totally accepted My and Lucy’s freedom.
Lucy’s boyfriend was not terribly thrilled about the naked
lifestyle. She had told me this the very first time we met, while eating the
pizza on the cow. He never minded when she was naked, but of course he saw it
as something completely different than just simply naked. (And, yes, Lucy was
what most would consider a ‘hottie’. She was a healthy, attractive 22 year old,
and even with clothes on, she would make most guys, and many gals stare. When
she was without clothes, she would be considered a knock-out. I seldom, if
ever, comment about the physical attributes of a person’s body. But with her,
this was a handicap that made it even harder for her to be comfortably naked. This is what she referred to that first day while we ate pizza naked on her cow-skin rug, and was pleasantly surprised I did not treat her that way. Most people just have to learn to accept all the “so-called imperfections” they
see on the human body to allow themselves to be naked, or to see another naked.
With her, the reaction most people gave was of absolute admiration, and wanting
to see more of her “supposed perfection”. Most humans have to be willing to
allow others to see the wrinkles, sags, bulges, funny veins, or lopsided and
uneven parts. She had to accept that they would stare at her, because she did
not have any of the “normal imperfections”. Most people quickly get bored of
seeing the naked human body, once they realize there is nothing that is so
exciting they need to stare. But with Lucy, most would find themselves staring
in Awe, instead of mild disgust, or amusement.) She was not fond of the
attention directed toward her physical body. She was just like me in this
aspect. Some people go naked for the sole purpose of getting attention, and to
have others see them. Those people are exhibitionists, not nudists, or
naturists. That is the exact opposite of what naked freedom is all about for a
true nudist, or naturist~someone who just enjoys the freedom of no clothes,
acceptance, safety, comfort, and just overall loves people for who they are,
not what they look like. An exhibitionist is usually illegal. A Naturist, or
Nudist is seldom illegal. Yes, there is a huge difference. In most laws
regarding nudity, for it to be illegal, it must be Lewd, Obscene, or both. Exhibitionism,
or doing things to attract attention to the naked body usually falls under one
or both of those categories. A Nudist, or naturist is not interested in attracting
attention for being naked, they are simply just naked.
But Lucy’s boyfriend was definitely the type who loved to
have her naked simply because he could ogle her. For this same reason, he had a
hard time ever seeing anybody else naked, and especially having another person
see Lucy naked. To him, naked meant sexual stimulation. Neither Lucy nor I saw
it this way, and that is why we could enjoy the freedom comfortably. She made
sure to tell him about her new neighbors right away, and she was surprised that
he seemed to approve. He told her he also wanted to meet both Sandy and Me. So
the first time he came over when I was home, he took it upon himself to knock
on my door. I answered it naked, of course. He did not flinch. He put his hand
out to shake mine, and introduced himself. I was surprised how comfortable he
was, after what I’d been told. He made it clear he was happy for such good
neighbors for Lucy, and glad she had a place she could be herself. He then asked if I would take him upstairs to
meet Sandy, too. I said, we should stop and get Lucy as we go upstairs. He
agreed. Lucy was totally naked, and agreed to come upstairs with us. He was
intrigued at watching how we behaved together. Once meeting Sandy, and seeing
how she behaved with us, too, he told all of us how we definitely treated naked
differently than he was used-to. On the way back down the stairs, we passed the
maintenance man. Lucy’s boyfriend was
amazed to watch that he greeted each of us, and looked in our eyes, instead of
at her breasts. He told all of us how comfortable it was, instead of awkward,
sexual, or in any way like there was anything but genuine care , concern, and
neighborly friendliness. He was always comfortable around either Me, or Lucy
when we were naked, but would never dare go naked himself.
Throughout the winter, we would be naked in each other’s
apartments, in our own apartments, and often be seen going to the dumpster
naked, too. We went to the roof
occasionally for an evening, but only occasionally. (Sandy still would only
poke her head up, but remain on the stairs.) We all three helped paint and make
our homes creative, bright, and cheerful. Most of the time, Lucy and I were
always naked, and Sandy kept her clothes on. She had started to relax, and not
worry so much in her own apartment, but always made sure she was fully clothed
outside her own apartment. She would not worry if she had to change clothes or
we walked in while she was showering. She even got to the point where she would
walk naked from the shower to the bedroom without covering. We all three were
comfortable, and just came and went from each others’ apartments. We never felt
the need to knock, and our doors were always unlocked when we were home. We
knew better, though if Lucy’s boyfriend happened to be over. (We saw his car in
the parking lot, and would not just walk-into her apartment.) But that was the
only time. In no time, we had the entire entry, stairwell, and mailbox area
painted colorful, fun, inviting, and friendly.
On the day we were painting Sandy’s front door, and the surrounding
hallway, she surprised us by coming out of her bedroom with only underpants on!
She had started the day in full pants, and long sleeve shirt. Even though she
came out wearing only underwear, she was still making sure to cover her front
region with both hands. We tried not to look surprised, but we could not help
it. Her grin also told how surprised she was at herself! She told us she felt
brave today, and wanted to experience what we experience! (It was clear why she
was still covering herself with her hands. She was not the type to ever worry
about shaving any of her body hair, and now standing there in only panties, her
hair was wildly obvious, and she was self-conscious about how the panties did
not cover it. I found it to be surprisingly attractive, wild, and inviting to
look at. She even had hairier legs than many men. Her navel was hairy, so was
her belly, and she even had hair on her chest, and many long hairs on her
nipples. She was not ugly, and unattractive, she simply never was the type to
worry about body hair grooming. I did not want to make her uncomfortable,
though. Even though she had not minded us seeing her natural and naked when
dressing, or going from the shower to get dressed, Now that she was wearing
only underwear, it was sticking out, and she was self-conscious of it.) We
asked about the underwear-only, though. She grinned, and said she was not quite
ready to be outside her apartment completely naked! We could tell from the way
she felt she needed to hide her body hair, that this was an incredibly huge
leap for her. She totally trusted us, and was willing to allow us to see her
areas she would never allow another to see. She was not the type to ever wear a
bra. She was small-breasted, and not ever concerned about the needed hassle of
a bra, so going braless was not so much an issue… she simply just removed her
shirt.
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While these are not the same
panties, they are close
enough. These have pink pigs
instead of purple smileys.
Either way, they make me smile! :)
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(And I would bet she bought brand new underwear just for this occasion!
They were bright yellow panties with purple smileys on them.) She was the type
to never buy new clothes…ever! But this pair of underwear were definitely new! I
complimented her on her choice of underpants, and she beamed with pride, and
told me she knew I would like them! She eventually forgot to attempt to hide
her hair that was sticking out, and knew we were safe, and it did not matter. She
had a ball painting that day, and only ran inside once when she heard the
stairway door open then close below us. (It was the mail lady.) She came back
out when she was sure the coast was clear. By the end of that day, her bright
yellow with purple smileys underwear were covered in many other colors of
paint… as was usual when we were painting. (Except it was not our underwear
covered in paint, since we were naked.) She did not mind at all, and was
thrilled to have done it! She insisted she loved the freedom, and could
understand what we saw in doing it every day… but she never did that again. She
still would not mind being naked occasionally inside her own apartment, but still
very reserved, guarded, and cautious about anybody else possibly seeing any of
her body. She made it a point to always put clothes on, and not linger too long
naked, or in just underwear. We were thrilled that she felt comfortable enough,
and got the courage to do it mostly naked the first time!
The owners loved how we made the place feel with all the
paint, colors, and cheer. It did not take long to get all the units filled-up
when it was so cheerful, instead of looking deserted. Some of the new neighbors found it humorous
how we enjoyed our naked freedom. Even though most of them never joined us in our naked lifestyle, (until Memorial Day), there was one who did. The rest were content to just allow us to do our own thing, but also
did not shun us. The one who did happily come and get naked in my home, was the one we least expected to ever be socially naked. Her name was Jill, and she was quite possibly the shyest person I had ever met. But for whatever reasons, she felt very welcome, and comfortable in my home. Sandy and Lucy also openly welcomed her. She moved into our building in March. I will tell more about her later. Most of the neighbors were happy to live there, and were friendly,
caring neighbors. Of course, there were some who once they moved-in would
complain to the owners about us being naked. The owners would tell them that
“The naked people were the ones willing to move-in, paint it, make it cheerful,
and help get others to move here, while it still looked rundown and deserted.
The naked people are what made it so you would want to live here. The naked
people can remain naked.” Only one
person moved out because of us.
Sandy’s “boyfriend” showed up one time. I knew it was him
without ever having met him. He parked almost at my front door, and when he
looked inside, he saw me naked. He stopped, and yelled at me “What are you
doing!? My Girlfriend lives here!” He was drunk, and totally could not believe
the possibility of “His Girlfriend” seeing the human body naked. I just smiled,
walked to the door, stuck out my hand and introduced myself. He would not shake
my hand. Sandy was up on her balcony watching, and laughing. She smiled down at
him and said, “Don’t you think I am old enough to decide for myself if I am
allowed to see a naked person?” He was
not sure how to react to that. While he was away, she had gained confidence,
and knew what she did and did not want in her life. He was mad at all the
color, and cheer. He told her they were moving out. She informed him She was
staying, and if he had decided to show up more than once every few months he
might have had a say in it. He grabbed his things, and started loading them
into his van. Lucy totally knew what her body did to most men, and this time
used it for a great purpose. While he was loading the van he was also yelling
at Sandy. Lucy decided this was The Perfect
time to take out her trash while naked. He was so distracted by Lucy, he
totally forgot he was yelling at Sandy. He tripped with every step, and could
barely function. He Stuffed his things in the van, and hurried to get out of
the parking lot. Lucy made sure to walk up by the street as he went out the
driveway. He was so distracted, he hit the power pole! We were all laughing
hilariously. He only dented his fender, and broke the mirror, so he sped on
away from our place. Sandy thanked us, and was smiling bigger than ever! Lucy
said she felt like she had been soiled, and needed a shower.
As The Spring months came and the weather started getting
warmer, it meant it was time to find a sunny spot, and soak up as much sun as
possible! I did not get sun on my patio areas, since it was all under the
carport awning. I had many times gone up and sunbathed on Sandy’s balcony. She
lived on the third floor, so the balcony was visible from the street, and some
of the neighbors if anybody chose to look up there. Sandy’s balcony also
happened to be slightly lower, and ajacent to the balcony of The Sorority House
next door. Most of the time, nobody looked high while going past. Sandy never
sunned herself outside, but she would open her balcony door, and lay naked on
the floor just inside the open door. There, the only people who could see her
were The Sorority Girls, but they were very respectful, and never made her
uncomfortable. (The Sorority Girls often enjoyed time on their own balcony, and inside their home naked. They, too never closed their blinds, and knew we were as safe and comfortable as they were towards us.The unique thing about The Sorority House was that We were the only ones who could see into their windows, or see what happened on their balcony, and they never felt the need to hide from us, just like we never hid from them.) Other than the girls, nobody could see her, and she could still
get a bit of sun. She would not sun naked while I was out on her balcony, only
when she was alone. Often, though, while I was sunning on her balcony, she had
come and lay just inside the door in the now-painted, but otherwise yellow with
purple smileys underwear. I knew this was special, and I cherished it. By this
time, she had gotten comfortable with me seeing her in her underwear regularly.
I loved that she still had all that wild untrimmed hair, but every time she saw
me looking, she would get self-conscious, and attempt to hide it. She knew I
was not interested in sex, and even understood why. To both of us, this was a
good thing. That eliminated the possibility of any sexual tension. When she
would see me looking at her wild, untrimmed hair, she would tease me and say I
wanted to touch it. (She knew I wanted to, and also knew I would not because of
how uncomfortable the topic made her. She also knew that to me, the hair was a
topic in itself, and not in any way sexual, or connected to what it covered,
she knew I was not interested in her vagina, only the hair that was wildly
covering it.) When she would tease me, it was her way of lightening her own
feeling about the hair. I told her she knew all too well how much I would love
to touch it too, and how much I found it to be a good thing, but any mention of
it made her uncomfortable. One time, she confessed how she hated that she did not
know what to do with it, and how it had become the monster she would not deal
with. She knew full well how comfortable I was with shaving, trimming, and
helping others learn what level of comfort was good for them. When we talked
about my hair, or others’ hair, she was comfortable with that, but when it came
to her own body hair, the topic sent her mind spiraling. She often would talk
to Lucy about the various ways she had trimmed herself up. (Lucy was very
artistic in this area.) She was perfectly fine talking with either of us about
our own hair, or lack of, but if the topic turned to herself, that was not
good. One time I offered to help her with hers. She was not at all willing to
entertain that possibility. So, we pretty much agreed to never bring up the
topic of her body hair. She knew I admired it. I knew she hated it and was
ashamed of it. Yet, she would still purposely make sure I could see it, and I
knew to never say anything about it. When she knew I would be up there, she
would purposely have on those painted yellow with purple smileys underwear. It
was interesting how she was happy to show off that particular pair, and even
proud to wear them for me, allowing her wild hair to be proudly displayed, yet
pretend it was not there. All of her other underwear was tattered, worn, and
had the possibility to crumble into shreds at any moment.
I had also found a couple of sunny spots in the parking lot
that were semi-secluded, and if we parked our cars in the right places, were
only visible from the balconies of our own apartments just above the parking
places, and the balcony of The Sorority House. The girls in the Sorority House
enjoyed when I used the parking lot, because their balcony looked down on our
parking lot. They liked to pretend seeing me naked was no big deal, but they
always found excuses to hang out on their balcony once I was sunning in the lot
below. Many of them also parked their cars in our parking lot. (This was an
arrangement the owners of our place came up with while our building was mostly
empty. The Sorority girls liked the arrangement, and it gave them a safe place
to park their cars where others could keep an eye on them, and it kept the cars
off the street.) When I was sunning in the parking lot, many of them would find
repeated excuses to have a need to go to the car for something. Even though
they had no reason to walk right next to where I was, once they looked over their
balcony, and saw me down there, they would suddenly find a reason to come and
walk through right next to where I was, shyly looking, giggling, and walking
back and forth many times. I did not mind, because they were not in any way
mean, and I totally understand how fun that can be when done in a healthy way.
I was actually glad they were gutsy enough to do what they desired, instead of
hiding, lurking, or being sneaky. Often, Sandy would come and sit on her
balcony and watch me sunning below. Once in a while, she would pour water on me
from above. It was never a lot, or to be mean, just simple fun, and friendly. Occasionally,
if someone paid attention, and peered through the bushes along the street, the
parking lot sunny-spots were visible to anyone walking past. But most of the
time, nobody looked down there. Or those who did were polite, and did not make
a scene.
Lucy often sunbathed on her balcony, which was on the second
floor, and just happened to be at the same level as the street. She found that
she attracted way more attention than she found comfortable. This attention was
from strangers, and people on the street, not from anyone in our apartments, or
even from the neighbors. She was not comfortable with that kind of attention,
and I don’t blame her. I used Lucy’s balcony a couple of times, also, just to
see if people reacted to anybody on her balcony, or if it was just her. I got
the same unwanted attention she had gotten! Sandy offered her balcony, and Lucy
was not so sure she would not be harassed up there, too. I told her she would
be safe up there. She reluctantly tried it, and was pleasantly surprised that
nobody seemed to notice. (People rarely go out of their way to look up, when
passing by.) Lucy also came to the places I had discovered in the parking lot,
and did not like the feeling of “having to hide” for sunbathing. I also
understood this feeling. Since it was not illegal, we should be able to
sunbathe wherever we wanted without hassle. The trouble was the way some people
in our society react toward naked.
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Here is the field, with its wonderful architecture,
seating and paths.
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There was also an old soccer arena just down the hill from
our building. It was pretty much an abandoned field with wonderful concrete
ampitheater-style seating curved half-way around the field. I had gone down
there many times to sunbathe, and never had a problem with anyone harassing me,
or complaining. Sandy would often come down here and join me, but would not
expose any of her body outside. She enjoyed the sunshine, and we enjoyed each
other’s company. Sometimes, she would use my coming down here as an excuse to
take her dog out to play. I would sun on the grass, and they would run around
on the field. It was not exactly a private area, nor secluded. It was actually
the exact opposite! It was visible to any and all from all sides. Around its
high-rimmed perimeter, there was a walking path which connected several
sections of The University. It was flanked on one side by the back side of many
old homes, with rear-porches. Another side was flanked entirely by student
dorms. The two sides with the concrete ampitheater seating, also had
greek-style architecture, arches, pillars, and arched roofs over the top of the
seating, and the walking path. Oddly enough, this entire field, and the seating
area was a perfect place for sunbathing. The first couple of times I went down
there, I was cautious, and chose semi-secluded areas. I quickly found out that
nobody cared if I was naked down there. Even the campus police who patrolled it
stopped and chatted, but never cared that I was naked. They would stop to chat,
just out of standard practice to see who was around, and what they were up to.
After a couple of times chatting with them, I asked if there was ever a problem
with nudity here. They agreed with what I had already discovered. They stated
that as long as a person was minding their own business, and not trying to
attract attention, there would not be a problem out here. I had also discovered this same freedom in
this same spot when it had snowed in December. This was where I came to naked
snow dance, and make nude-snow-angels. Others also came out and did the same
thing, and nobody seemed to care that others were naked out here. (But I
actually had figured it was just because of the “special” feeling created by
the snow.)
I told Lucy about the freedom I had found down at the field,
and she was skeptical, but willing to try it out and see if she got harassed. I
went all the way out to the middle of the field, and chose my perfect sunny
spot on the nice soft grass. (It sure beat the concrete of balconies, parking
places, or the seating around the field!) She chose to be less visible for the
first time, and just see how it went. She did not hide, but chose a spot closer
to the wall, so she was only visible for some from across the field. I mentioned
this was not exactly a secluded, hardly visible, or even seldom-used area. It
was actually quite busy on this afternoon with many people coming and going.
Many walked around the perimeter on the paths, but we found that many also cut
across the field, too. A few people stopped and did a long glance at her, but
nobody was rude, or in any way made her uncomfortable. A few did the same thing
with me. (But more glanced longer at her.) The ones that looked, were looking
more out of simple curiosity to see why a person was naked here, but not to
stare, or ogle a naked person. The ones that took longer looks at her had a
genuine look of appreciation as they gazed at her naked body. She saw this,
too, and not once was she made to feel uncomfortable. A group of kids (I say
kids, because to me, they were all kids, even though they were in college…and,
yes Lucy was a kid in my eyes, too!) had come down to the field to play some
games of Frisbee. It was a mixed group of guys and gals. They were not
concerned that we were naked, but they were concerned that we might get hit
with a Frisbee. We happily moved to a place where we would not block their
game. This time, we both were in a much-more visible place, and actually right
next to the other path on the far side. Not one single person harassed her.
Everyone out here was neighborly, polite, friendly, accepting, and wonderful!
We had been so comfortable, we decided to just walk up the hill to our
apartments without putting on any clothes… just to see what happened.
Well, the short walk up the hill definitely was not
pleasant. We attracted so many rude people! But that was also exactly what we
needed for figuring out why people reacted to naked if in different locations.
We discovered that if it was at plain-level, where they are seeing, without
having to look, it seemed to attract all the wrong attention. It seemed they
felt it was forced upon them, and they were forced to see the naked body. In a
field, arena, on a higher balcony, or in a lower parking lot people going past
had to make an effort to look in the direction of the naked person, and they
seemed to decide they were the ones intruding, and would leave the naked person
alone. When we walked up the hill naked from the arena, we managed to put the
naked immediately in front of their view again, and this seemed to be the key. We
discovered where people’s perception of naked was acceptable, and where they
seemed to think it was forced upon them.
The arena experiment was a wonderful way to discover how,
and where people would react to nakedness. (Ironically, just two blocks away,
people were arrested every day for “streaking” across a main courtyard lawn.
The difference was that in that courtyard, it was considered the ultimate
“dare, challenge, initiation, or even hazing” to make someone run the length of
it naked without getting busted. That courtyard also happened to be a major
area of importance, and the only reason anybody went naked there was to get the
attention. It was also considered a “privilege” if you happened to catch a
glimpse of one of the streakers.) But down on the arena we were using, it was
not even close to the same thing.
As spring warmed further, we often would go down to the
arena for sunbathing. We also discovered we were not alone in this adventure.
On the warmer days, it was not uncommon to see many naked, or partially naked
sunning out here. As long as Lucy was not naked on her balcony or walking near
the street, she never got harassed. We found it interesting that she could be
naked inside her apartment with the blinds open, and nobody reacted, but if she
was on her balcony, they did. We often talked about how wonderful it would be
to try out the sunbathing up on the roof! (But we needed a time when no owners,
or maintenance people were around.) I was usually off Mondays and Tuesdays.
Going up on the roof on either of those days meant it was too risky. I never
had a problem with pushing my boundaries just a wee-bit with the people I
rented from, but I also was not willing to risk getting on their bad-side. We
often would go up there in the late evening hours, but had not yet had the
opportunity for sunbathing up there. There was also the factor of placing our
nudity in plain-view of the University admin buildings nearby.
Well, Memorial Day just happens to fall on a Monday, and I
was off work. Early in the morning, I got the idea that this would be the
perfect day to spend an entire day up on the roof! It was supposed to be hot
(close to 100 degrees), clear, and beautiful this day! I made some sandwiches,
got my juices, and waters, snacks, gathered some towels, a book, my radio, even
a pillow. I got my lotion, sunglasses, hat, and sandals. I got my knife, and a
walking stick I needed to do some carving on. I got out my ladder, so nobody
would have to scramble the first five feet. I was all set! I was going to go up
on the roof early in the day, and stay up there all day long! I had gathered
everything I would need, just like I was headed out hiking for the entire day. (You
might wonder why I chose to stay home, instead of going hiking on such a
perfect day? Simple! It was a holiday. That meant everyone would be out hiking.
There would be no peace in the mountains. Normally, I could hike naked, and
never have any problems with those I crossed paths with. But holidays tend to
bring out a different crowd, and I know from experience that crowd is not the
type of crowd that is safe, comfortable, or even the kind you would want to
cross paths with… clothed, or not! The holiday hikers were usually the type who
liked to be drunk, rowdy, and had no respect for nature, let alone other
humans. They would invade an entire area in the mountains, and trash it, shoot
guns, and destroy everything they came in contact with. These were not the type
of people I enjoyed at all.)
But the type of people I Did enjoy happened to be at my
home, and they were off today, too! For most of the University, the school year
had ended already, so many of the students had done a mass-exit for Summer
break. Some of the classes did not end yet, but they all were out for the long
weekend, so even those who still had to stay another week or two, had gone
elsewhere for the weekend. The Frat house next door was almost a
ghost-residence! (There were only a couple of guys still there....but I would learn later in the day that they had a work-party planned.) I had thought The
Sorority house on the other side had vacated, completely. (But would learn later in the day that they had an event for the families planned for later in the day.) The Arts building
across the street was also now completely vacant for remodeling. (The
remodeling project started about a month before Memorial day, but since today
was a holiday, there were no workers on the scaffolding, or up on the roof over
looking our roof. Construction workers as a whole are some of the most rude,
ill-mannered people, and we knew being naked around them would not be fun.) Many of the apartments behind us had already
vacated. (But I would learn later in the day that this was the day many parents
showed up with trucks to physically move out all their child’s belongings.) The
dorm buildings down the street were mostly vacant.
It was a perfect time to play naked in the sunshine on the
roof all day! (Or so I thought!) One of the biggest factors in finding a safe,
comfortable environment, is not so much the absence of other people, but rather
the security in knowing those that happen to be around are like-minded, and
comfortable. The last thing a nudist wants is to be gawked-at, or looked at as
if we were some sort of freak-show. It is not so much a problem to have the
construction workers see us naked, as it is to know they are in a completely
different frame of mind, and cannot see casual nakedness as just that. It is
not a problem to have all the windows from the dorms overlooking the area we
happen to be naked, but rather it is awkward to know you are on display for all
the kids to stare at with mild humor, and to become a main-focus for hundreds
of onlookers. It is not so much a problem to be naked where all the girls in
The Sorority house can see you, but rather awkward when you are the only male,
and clearly visible to the closest building, which happens to be an all-girl
residence. For those who are not familiar with a nudists lifestyle, it would
seem rather than just simply enjoying a sunny day while naked, in a
normal-everyday lifestyle, those who see this would likely view the naked
person as placing themselves on display to be seen by those nearby. Fortunately
for me, all the girls in the sorority house already had gotten to know me,
welcomed, and openly accepted my naked lifestyle. (Often, the girls at The Sorority house enjoyed naked time within their own home, and on their mostly secluded balcony.) The same was true with the
dorm-residents, and almost anybody else who was a regular in this neighborhood.
But, even still, having less people around made it even more perfect to be
naked on That Memorial Day.
For the continuation of this wonderful day, See this Blog: http://enterwithanopenmindorclosedeyes.blogspot.com/2012/06/get-naked-on-roof-part-ii.html
I decided to break this writing off here, and write the
day’s events of Our Naked On The Roof Memorial Day as several more writings.
This part covers the 7-months that led to this incredible day. The events that
happened during this day will consist of several more writings, because there
was so much that happened, and it is all very important for detailing how come
this event was so wonderful, incredible, and makes me wish I were back in
Virginia on Memorial Day!
Sometimes, the only thing that keeps me from sharing more of
my life’s adventures is the time it takes to write it all down. (And I know if
it takes me a while to write, It also takes you some time to read… I am
thrilled that you care enough to learn what makes my life so special, but I
also do not wish to take up your whole life with super-long writings.) As I get the rest of the events of That wonderful Memorial Day written, I will post them here.
