You Seek a Relationship? With One Person? Why?

You seek a relationship? With Only One Person? Why?

So many people in life seem to always be looking for their next relationship, seeking their partner, feeling incomplete unless they are in a relationship.

To me, one cannot do anything with another, until they have learned who they themselves are, are happy with themselves, and do not NEED another for their own happiness, but rather once they are happy in their life, then another can come in and make it so much more enriching. So many people tend to always seek to be connected to another, never allowing themselves to truly learn who they are as an individual.

Obviously there is much to be gained, given, shared, understood, and thrive-upon any time any people find a connection, trust, understanding, and have common goals in life.

I cannot understand why people seek their “Soul-mate”, “Life-partner”, or “Significant-other”. To Me, that seems like they are limiting their potential, settling for only partial love, and not really seeking to give and receive all the love they were designed for. In my observations, the one(s) that are meant to be together will happen to work-out, without anyone going looking, forcing it, or trying to make it happen. I cannot understand why anyone seems to think they are not complete until they have attached themselves to another. (Kinda matches the whole calling someone "My Other Half" ... Seems to suggest you are not willing to be whole as you were created, but that you need someone before you can truly be who you were meant to be.)

All My life the way humans tend to go about life, especially relationships, baffles me. Often to the point that I truly wonder if I really am at all Human, or just somehow dropped amongst them, and supposed to figure out how to fit-in.

The notion that there should be a “Soul-mate”, or “The One” to me is so outrageous that I wonder why so many limit themselves, and refuse to find the capacity of love they truly could experience.  Now don’t get me wrong. In no way am I suggesting people should not commit to one another, or denouncing that there really is chemistry, balance, and love between any given two (or more) people. I just feel that as complex Humans that we are, there is so much more to give and receive between people than can be achieved in a one-on-one basis.

Another thing that baffles me in the way people go about getting in a relationship is how often one will try to force it. Clearly, a relationship should be built on mutual feelings, mutual connections, and when two or more people feel they are drawn into one another’s lives.

When someone feels they are “supposed to be with” another, yet it is one-sided, that is a clear sign that the feeling is not a true connection, and certainly not a basis for “building” a relationship from. This would in many cases be what is called “stalking”. The infatuation, or desire of the one to “Be with” the one who is not feeling the same often will push away the one not as interested, and because the pursuer was convinced it really was a connection, they will suddenly claim to have “gotten their heart broken”. Desperation, or acts of being desperate seldom will gain positive results.

One thing I have always done consistently in my life is to be up front, and honest about my intentions, feelings, goals, and desires. While knowing who I am, and what I do or do not want in life would seem to be a great quality. However for some odd reason, those are also confusing and puzzling to those who do not yet know themselves and what they like or do not like in life. My suggestion to anyone is to always get to know yourself before you attempt to include another in your life.

I certainly will never claim to be any sort of “Relationship Expert”, But I DO know what is and is not good for me in life. If I tell someone what I do not seek, and do not want, yet they seem to think they can convince me to do those things just because They want them, they get a hard smack of reality when I shut the door in their face.  If I tell someone who is angling toward “making me their boyfriend” that I am absolutely not interested in that sort of relationship, yet they still have the notion they will continue to pursue me in that way, they will find a locked door between us fast!

I also am an anomaly in the sense that I am Asexual. Period. That means exactly that. I Am not at all interested in sex, am not seeking sex, will not have sex. Does not matter male, female, gay, bi, trans, or anything in-between. I do not like, want, desire, or seek sex in any way. This confuses people, because I also happen to be a nudist. For too many on this Earth, they equate naked with sex. So to see a male naked, they just cannot grasp that I am not seeking sex. I go into great detail about my lack of sexuality in many other posts. This one is devoted to relationships.

Oddly, also, many seem to think the whole purpose of a relationship is for sexual pleasure. For some it may be. For me, not at all. If I get into any relationship, it is absolutely Emotional, Mental, Spiritual, and for the feelings that are shared, never for any sexual desires.  

With all that is said above, you might be wondering what, exactly might lead me toward a relationship? Well, I have been in many relationships that were absolutely wonderful! Some have been only between myself and another, but most of the cherished ones have been when it is more than just two individuals. Yes, I know this may baffle you, and your thoughts are going all sorts of places. 

But let me try and help make it not seem so wild:

I am not talking about Swingers, or even Open Relationships. Those are definitely sexual in nature. A relationship including more than two people happens when everyone involved is mutually accepting of each other, completely honest, completely open, and completely understanding with No hidden agendas, often everyone involved is involved together. Again, this is about relationships, love, spiritual, mental, and emotional well-being, Not about Sex! (Although sex may occur between those who agree and desire, it usually is not like an orgy, or wild sex stuff.)  Each person brings something different to the relationship, making for more love, understanding, and comfort. As humans, we are complex in ways that limiting yourself to only one person in a relationship means that you will not fulfill every aspect of your being.

If you have never given that any sort of thought, it can be mind-boggling. Most are taught that a relationship should be limited to only two people. (not even sure what that stems from, but it is a common thought in most of our society) Think about it this way: You have many best friends, right? Each one fits in your life in a little bit different way than the others. You would never consider that you should only have one friend, eliminating all the others. But when it comes to “traditional” relationships, you choose one person. You marry that one person, and push out all the other best friends you had. Pretty soon you realize you miss what they contributed to your life, but say something along the lines of “Well, I am happily married.” Now, think about how wonderfully enriched your life would be if instead of pushing out the friends because you got married, that you include them in your marriage.  I know, it boggles your mind, because you have never before been taught you are allowed to think that way.  

The notion of Loving more than one person is not new, nor in any way something that was created just to fulfill someones strange notion. The idea of many loves, all included, open, and honest with one another is as old as mankind. The difference is you have been taught that you are not supposed to love more than one person. To me, that teaching is a sad thing. Humans were made to love, help, encourage, uplift, and support one another. We were not made to isolate, separate, and keep one only to ourselves. Nor were we made to be isolated. Our love is meant to be shared. The more we give, the more we receive. Imagine if everyone on this Earth felt loved? Imagine if everyone felt secure enough to Give Love? Don’t you think that if you were allowed to give love to as many as you possibly could, you also would receive ten-fold the amount you gave? That exactly is what I am referring to when I say relationships should not be limited to only one person. That is isolation.

PolyAmory is a term that seems to have come into use a lot lately. Seems to me someone needed a term, or category to fit a lifestyle that has been around since the beginning of mankind. This, too baffles me: The need to “Categorize” everyone and everything. I have never understood why everything people do needs to fit some sort of pre-defined category, label, or group, but that is what makes some happy, so they create these to find a place their lives “Fit”. But anyhow, Poly-Amory, or Poly-Amorous are both becoming popular. While I do not agree with every aspect this page posts, it is a good one for answering some of the more frequently asked questions about how having more than one love can affect people. Here is the page: https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamory.html

Whatever you choose to call it, I hope you can call it love.

I have been in many wonderful relationships in my life. Some have been with only one person, but the most fulfilling ones have been when I was in a relationship with many someones at the same time. Each of those was done in the manner that everyone involved was in agreement of what the relationship was. Nothing was hidden. All were aware, consenting, and agreeable in what roles each played.

Yup, I also have been in relationships with married couples. Sometimes, the fit is absolutely perfect. Instead of being a “third-wheel”, I am “the other husband”. Think about that for a second, and think about who I am and what I am all about, you will see how it fits nicely. There is an old saying that goes something like this:

Found this on Pinterest, Here:

Now, of course we all know that is a joke. But in reality, wouldn’t it be great to fulfill all that? Well in the type of relationship I refer to, it is a Reality! I have been in many like this in my life. None were exactly like this funny sign, but all were equally fulfilling, where each person fulfilled a different area of the relationship. It is absolutely empowering, wonderful, and fulfilling to be in such a relationship. Keep in mind, unlike the funny picture, we all agreed to let each other know what we each wanted, and what was good by one, or better by another.  I have been in many just like this in my life. Nope, we never hid it, although most who did not know us well assumed we were just joking about the nature of our relationships.  Naturally, my role was not in the sex department. But often the emotional, spiritual, even sensual led to those who were in the sex area to have a more fulfilling experience. I am perfectly fine with not being included in the sex, but also perfectly fine with helping those who wish to achieve it to make it more fulfilling. Everyone wins!

The only time a relationship like this is harmful is when one person decides they want a one-on-one relationship, instead of the fulfilling one they had been in for years. When they seek a one-on-one without being open and honest with the others they are already with, it will be desructive, instead of positive. If it is a woman marrying a guy who was not fond of her having friends that were guys, sadly, the woman will leave all her fulfilling relationships, and go isolate herself with that one guy who was not willing to see her totally happy. Often, it is a new guy that enters a relationship where there are more than two people and he is not willing to join the relationship, or even get to know the others, but decides he wants to take that gal away from what makes her happy. Sadly, the lady will often go, and later lament how sad she is, or attempt to meet with her friends secretly for fulfillment. But anything done in secret never works out in a positive way.  Everyone loses when one in a group relationship decides to not tell, or include the new interest in the more-than one relationship. For them to work, everyone must always be aware of everyone else involved, and accepting of it, or it will fall apart real fast. Integrity, honesty, and openness are the key. As soon as one of those is gone, there is no longer a trust, and it all must go away.

The only way to have a true relationship is to be open and honest. When one is isolated, they lose their happiness. But if they wait until it is too late to present what they know to be a great way to have relationships, it cannot be done. It must be open from the beginning, or it will fail.

It has been a few years since I have been in any relationship at all, and I am totally fine with that. I am not seeking to be joined to anyone. Although it is jokingly tossed about that “Jon has many girlfriends”, and of course I play along with that, because it actually does appear that I am in many relationships, but in all reality, I happen to only interact momentarily with any of my supposed girlfriends.

I of course always joke about my “girlfriends”… Nor do I have any “boyfriends” either. Nope, I am not opposed to either. If someone, or many someones, came along that fit into my life, and uplifted my Spirits, emotions, and mental well-being, and I did the same for them, I absolutely would not hesitate to be in a relationship with them.  To me it should not matter if that human has a penis or a vagina, since those are merely physical aspects. I could love anything that has a soul … but is has to fit nicely with my own soul … a fit that would present itself without sacrifice, without convincing, without coercion. It would just fit, and happen, no planning, no hoping, no scheming.

I have often in my life been referred to as “An Angel”. This is not of my own choosing, nor would I call myself an Angel. However, when others refer to me as either “an Angel” or “Their Angel” or “Guardian Angel”, often outsiders will agree. I am ok with that. If I truly am an angel, and was sent to help with that person’s life, situation, or circumstances, I think there is no better “title”. But similar to any other Spirit, an Angel is not meant to be held by just one, nor would an Angel enter a relationship with the one they were sent to help. I do not understand why, but often those who call me “Angel” also seem to think I should be in a relationship with them. I guess I see it as “Keep your personal life separate from you work life”, Meaning: if I am an Angel, My work is to guide, protect, help, and get going in the right direction. My role would absolutely not be to claim that one as my own., or to in any way take on the role of “partner”.

As to why I say I do not need or seek a relationship, unlike most of the Humans on this Earth? Well, To make it simple, I am a Very Spiritual person. I connect with nature, with The Indian Spirit, and with The Eagle. Just like any of the above, if those are fenced, or placed in an unnatural environment, they will wither, and no longer be free-spirits. An Eagle is beautiful to watch, admire, and learn about. Tether or cage an Eagle, and it will no longer be of any interest because it will not be allowed to soar. Cut down a tree, and yes the wood is beautiful, and can be admired, but it no longer can stand tall, providing Oxygen, cleaning the air, or providing shade, and homes for numerous others in life. Remove an Indian from his plains, and wilderness, and he no longer can connect with the Free Spirit of the Universe, can no longer provide for his people, and can no longer thrive.  Similarly, if I was caged, I would no longer be who I am.

The ONLY way I will end up in a relationship is if someone happens to walk beside me in life, free in spirit, uncaged, and also stands tall in the wind, the sun, and all the elements of life. Wanna know who is the right one, or ones for me? The one(s) who happen to just fit into my life, or I happen to fit into theirs.   That someone, or someone(s) will be aware of who they are, know fully what they believe, but also be open to learning and changing as they grow and change in life. That person, or persons will know why they feel the way they do, will love themselves first, and thrive on helping others to feel that same freedom. The one(s) I end up in a relationship with will be Spiritual, Free, and full of Wonder.

Meanwhile, I do not wait around looking, seeking, or hoping for anyone that might choose to join me. I waited long ago, and I learned the hard way that only leads to disappointment. Now I go forward with my life, not looking over my shoulder to see if anyone is wishing they had tried to walk with me. If and when the day comes that I am meant to be with another, I will see them right beside me. It will not be a chase, nor a bargaining to get with them. I know fully who I am, and will happily welcome anyone who also has discovered who they are. But they gotta know who they themselves are before they could possibly want to join another.

You are welcome to watch me soar as an Eagle. You are welcome to enjoy the shade, or breathe my Oxygen of me as a tree, or even climb up me to get out of the flood swirling at your feet. You are welcome to ride the plains, worship the Spirits of The Universe, and be one with the wild animals with me as an Indian. I will even help you to find who you seek to be, but don’t think for a second I will be caged, or taken out of my nature.

Love Yourself first. You are a Beautiful Human. You were made unique, so that only you can decide what fits best in your life. Once you find who you are, then you will be amazed at what you can find in a relationship. 

Erections? Not Always Sexual...

A Riddle for You:

How could a Non-sexual Nudist, The topic of Erections, A Thrift-store Christmas G-string, and a Friend who has no desire to see ya naked connect?
Answer: Welcome To MY World… Where nothing is as it might first seem…

~~~~~A WORD OF CAUTION!~~~
This post mentions topics that some may find OFFENSIVE. I do not intent to be rude, offensive, or in any way sexual, inappropriate, or even to draw attention to any specific part of any human body... BUT In the search, and discovery of what makes me who I am, I will discuss topics that happen to come up. This one happens to be about Erections. You HAVE BEEN WARNED>>> Please ENTER WITH AN OPEN MIND... Or CLOSED EYES. It is not for everyone, but for those who wish to learn about me, and the quirks that make Me such a unique Human. If you are easily offended, then Please do us both a favor, and skip this post. If You are not sure, then perhaps you might learn something about yourself by reading my thoughts... Either way, Please play nice, keep in mind this is who I am, and I welcome you to learn, discover, and possibly welcome a view that may not match your own. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I am absolutely not a sexual person, and even can’t fathom an erection of mine in a sexual way. But what baffles Me, is not that I get erections, but WHEN I Do!

Ya know, maybe that is why I am so ashamed , nope not ashamed, make that ->>scared of letting anyone see my erections?

Not every human male sees an erection in a sexual way. Yes, most do, but not all. And of course Not all women see an erection as sexual… But if a woman does not understand why the erection has happened, it can be awkward, creepy, or even frightening. Unfortunately, most women tend to think like most men… in that an erection means it is sexual. I am one of those that just the topic of what causes it, and why, to me is very fascinating. I do not want to know anything about it in a sexual way, nor want to hear about it that way. I like to learn about quirks of the human body. My own is quirkier than any I’ve ever found, so why not learn, explore and see what makes things happen, or not?

Yeah, yeah, I am fully-aware that society sees erections as sexual. I know that most people see them that way. I know most men get ‘em… and Want to have sex with it. Not Me. I’ve made it clear in many posts how I feel about this, and it just is not for me. I’ve lost many female friends because of how they perceive an erection. I wish more people had an open-mind, and were willing to learn about an individual human, and what makes them who they are, instead of just thinking something they know about another human could possibly be the same with the next one. I make it clear to anyone that might see me naked, or might see me with an erection that I Absolutely am not a sexual person, and I absolutely DO NOT Want to have sex, or do anything sexual with my penis. But many people cannot just accept that a penis does not have to be sexual. Many women also do not understand that a man can also be raped, molested, or sexually abused. The definitions that apply for those toward a woman are the same definitions that would apply toward a man. To say an erection is automatically sexual, is just like saying that because you can see a woman’s boobs, it is automatically sexual. Nope. Just part of the human body. The point I wish to get across is that we need to learn to understand each human, know what they do, and do not like, know what they find welcome, and what they do not. Respect, understanding, and trust are Huge factors in the way ANY Human is, or is not touched.

But what about The Law?:

Yes, it is true, and I have written much about the legalities of naked living. In most places, Naked is not at all illegal. … As long as it is simply naked. Where the complication comes-in is when it is either Obscene, Or Lewd, Or Both. The definition, in most cases, is: “If one is aroused, sexual, causing arousal, or intent to have another notice them BECAUSE they are aroused”. Also sometimes the law states “Seeking to attract attention to the genitalia, whether aroused, or not”. With these definitions in mind, this is where the law gets complicated. Often, Most people (even police) believe simply naked is somehow obscene, or lewd, or both. This is because most people assume that just because a person is naked, they seek to attract attention to their genitals, or that somehow simply naked is somehow sexual. Now, you can see why it is often complicated to live a simply-naked life. Add to that, the fact that not all erections are sexual… it gets complicated. Simply put, if a person has an erection, it is best to not have it seen in any public way. Whether intended as sexual, or not, it will still be perceived as sexual, and will be treated as illegal. While any citation for simply naked could easily be fought, and won in a court, proving it was not in any way sexual, or intended to cause arousal, or to draw attention specifically to the genitals, If there is an erection, you likely would not have a chance. With these specifics of the law in mind, you can see why I have always been careful at who I allow to see any erection…. Thus my own Fear. The Last thing on this Earth I intend to do it somehow be arrested, or labeled as a “sex-offender”, or any of the other things that may come with someone getting the wrong idea if I happen to have an erection. So, for those few who I happen to allow it to be visible, know you are a very select-few. I trust you, and feel safe, comfortable, and free around you.

What About Porn?:

First, let me make it clear: I am Not Anti-Porn. What each does is their own choice. Much like any other thing in life, I simply look at it with the same rule “Does it Harm Anyone?” (That word ‘harm’ is the key.) It applies to each person. I follow a simple rule in what I feel I need to be against, verses what I just do not like. If it harms ANYone, then I am against it, and will say-so. If it does not harm in any way, I can simply choose to not like it. Of course, yes there are legalities involved with this, too. But I am not in the field of enforcing the laws about porn (Nor could I claim to even grasp the laws that focus specifically on it). For me, I do not like porn. Simply, it does not do any good for me, I don’t understand it, and choose to not have it part of my life. What others do with it is their choice, and I see plenty of good in what it does for many. Yeah, yeah… I’ve heard all-too-many of the arguments about why it is bad, wrong, etc. I am not religious. I am not anti-sex. I am not anti-most things… until it harms someone. Yeah yeah, you hear those who say “It exploits Women”, or other such arguments. If everyone involved is willing, and unharmed, I say let ‘em be. This may surprise you, but I actually enjoy hearing from those who enjoy it as to why, what it does for them, and how it is a good thing in their lives. Just because I do not like sex, does not mean I do not want others to enjoy it. I just don’t understand it. If it is good in your life, then I’m cool with it. Just don’t force it on anyone who is not interested.

I Like to Learn:

But on the subject of sex, and movies, documentaries, etc… While I often find it disturbing, I DO like to learn about the world in which I live, and the Humans that I share this place called Earth with. I always find it fascinating to be allowed to look into another’s mind, learn how they feel, think, and act. Just because I like to learn about others, or the way another’s body, mind, and spirit work, does not mean I either approve of, or do not.  It simply is a wanting to understand, learn, and know what others feel, think, and do. In no way am I judging, or saying right or wrong, simply wanting to learn. If you are close-enough in my life,  please talk with me about it. I enjoy learning. Heck, I have even been known to sit and watch what others like with them… simply so I can understand that person better. I often am not super-comfortable in the viewing of what others like, but I will often support them, learning their views, and also forming new ones of my own.

The Horrors that Sex can cause in life:

On the note of other’s behaviors, I often hear about movies, life-events, or books which are horrifying, difficult to look-at with an open mind, and often sickening to my core. But in wanting to learn, and not also attempt to deny what is real in this world, that means I gotta accept some unpleasant situations. They are real, and knowing they happen, and how it affects people helps when you are determined to be helpful to every human you meet in life.

One that definitely falls into the category of uncomfortable, but real:
A friend was recently describing a movie she saw, but only caught part of it, so missed the title, and even the beginning. It involved some pretty ‘twisted’ scenarios of what happens in back-woods places. (Scenarios that really do happen, and are not so far-fetched… just that as a society, we tend to not want to acknowledge, or even admit they happen.) It involved a town Low-down Dirty Sheriff, who was very sexually inappropriate, and the power he held over others. There was a woman who was held-captive, being sexually mistreated (raped) by the Sheriff, and many others. I think they were his sons (?). One of the boys was portrayed as a “retard”. (I use that term ONLY because that is how the movie was portraying him, NOT Because I see people that way… So don’t get yer panties in a bunch because of the “politically incorrect use of the term”) Anyhow, what the scene involved was where the other men tried to get the “retard” to rape the woman, and what it took to get him hard, so it could be done.  What I found fascinating, and wanted to learn more about was the part where they could not get any of the “normal” ways to get a male aroused to work on this boy (young man), but that they tried all sorts of other things. When they finally found something that got him hard, they laughed, called him a weirdo, a freak, and other things they associated with his behaviors. I do not like much of the entire scenario, but what I was curious about was that they would portray this young man in that way, and what it took to create the scene. I found it fascinating that a group of males was trying (unsuccessfully) to get another male aroused, so he could then be sexual with a woman (which did not arouse him). My friend told me when she watched it, and on what channel. I actually searched that channel’s web-site, and scheduling. Sadly I could not locate it. The time-frame for which she watched was leased to another sub-channel, so it was not listed. (In the movie, of course, the woman finally escaped, and it continued with what she did later to bring justice.)

Just the fact that I was comfortable talking openly about this with my friend was wonderful! I love having friends I can trust, and can be comfortable with. Ironically, while I can talk with her about these things, she is not ready to see me nekkid…. And at the same time, while I am not ashamed one bit to be seen nekkid, I am not so sure I would be willing to be nekkid in front of her. I find this fascinating, that we both are so free, and comfortable… yet we both have our own imprisonments, too!

In the area of her not being ready to see me naked, there is a funny story about a recent visit to a thrift store, where I happened to find a Christmas G-string (Complete with bells!!) (See pic at top of page). How does this relate to this story, and to her? That is another post all in itself, but for now, the fact that I actually bought The Christmas G-string, BECAUSE of this friend, and how each of our own levels of comfort, (or discomfort), and the finding of this G-string totally took me by surprise, and pushed my own boundaries of comfort, willingness to grow, accept, and learn.

Why would I not want to be naked in front of her? Simple: Fear. I absolutely DO NOT Want to freak her out in any way. I absolutely love the trust, comfort, and connection we Do have. People act differently after they see you naked. They act even more different if they see your erection. And the possibility of getting an erection while I am naked around her is there. Nope, not because I am sexually attracted to her in any way, nor because she turns me on. The absolute last thing I seek is any sexual interaction. She is a trusted friend, and I do not want to lose that. And More important, I do NOT Want TO make Her Uncomfortable. (Funny, how a G-string can make an uncomfortable situation comfortable, even acceptable) My job is to bring peace, comfort, happiness, and calm to her life. She does the same for Me. Nope, I do not see her as a potential girlfriend, and have no desire to have a girlfriend. Hers and my lives intertwine in curious ways, but not in a boy-friend, girl-friend kind of way. Most people cannot grasp this, and insist that I must have desires toward her, until they meet me, and see us together. Then they tell her they were wrong, and they too see that I am truly just a friend.

So, Why would I worry if a friend saw me naked… or with an erection? Good Question! That is something I am struggling with, have struggled with, and possibly will continue to struggle with in life.

When I ended-up living in Virginia a few years back, I managed to cross this divide, explore some of those fears, and welcome trusted friends to see me with an erection. But after I left Virginia, I somehow regressed again. Yes, there have been a few people I’ve allowed to see me like that, but not often, and I seem to be more in-hiding now than I was before I ever went to Virginia.

Yes, Virginia was a wonderful, free-ing place for me. Yes, It was Very safe, and I was surrounded by people I trusted. But since leaving Virginia, unfortunately (or fortunately, I guess) I have been in many less-than safe environments. When struggling to find safety in life, the very last thing I will do is to make myself or another feel vulnerable. What is The Ultimate In Vulnerability?? Being naked at the wrong time, or having someone who absolutely would not be comfortable seeing you naked see you naked. What’s worse than that? Having an erection at that same time.

Why does that scenario I described above in the movie about the boy who was not sexually turned-on connect with Me? Simply, because I get erections NOT because I am in any way sexually turned-on, but how, and when I get one, it would be looked-at as “Freak, Weirdo” etc.  Don’t you think I ALREADY KNOW I am The Freak in the room?? Yeah, I Know it, but it does not make it any easier. But the fear of scaring-off a friend just because I got an erection is bigger than the fact that they might just accept me, not care one-bit, and even find it a great way to take-down some barriers. I mean, really… let’s face it, is there ANYTHING more revealing than naked with an erection? Well, ok, possibly having someone watch you go to the bathroom… or someone seeing you have an orgasm!... But those are completely different scenarios.

The above probably gets you wondering “So, What strange things cause the erections for me?” Or “When do I get the erections that would seem strange?” Those are great things to wonder. I have finally gotten to the point that I will actually write my feelings, and even talk face-to face with some about these situations, feelings, confusions, and curiosities. Sorry, though. Some things I am not yet ready to publicly disclose. For those who happen to be ready, and close-enough, trusted, comfortable, and safe… When the time is right, I will either tell you, or allow you to see me in that way. … But know I will never force anything on anyone, nor do anything that will knowingly make you uncomfortable. If ya don’t wanna see, or know, don’t worry, you won’t. I will always do what I can to be sure those in my life are comfortable, safe, and never feel they have been forced into an uncomfortable situation. If You wanna know… Just ask. I might just happen to be comfortable enough to talk to you about it.

Oh, Why can’t life be simple, just like it was when we were kids? When we did not know shame, fear, and were not so self-conscious? When naked was simply fun, free, and simple. …

Getting Started......

I am aware Blogging is not a new thing. It is New to me, though. I am hoping to be able to use this tool to further my creative expressions. I Love life, and all the joys that can be found in daily living. I do not own a vehicle, and am always quite pleased at just how much one can see, enjoy, and discover in what most would consider every-day life. I choose to find excitement, and make every journey an adventure.

I tend to go through life alone, and have not found that to be a bad thing. Many people wish to keep-up with my life-journey, but that is difficult to do in person. So, I have found the online world to be a way to welcome others in. Online has allowed me to share what I am so passionate about, and not have to wait around for those who might or might not come along. I learned long ago that if I waited for those who say they wish to come along, I would never, or at best, seldom even make it out the door. Occasionally, I am blessed to have another Human actually meet the same schedule as mine, and have a wonderful shared adventure.

For many years, I have found Facebook, and Flickr to be wonderful online tools. I have met wonderful people, and made some life-long friends all over this place we call Earth. I absolutely hate phones. These online sites allow us to easily connect at the times that suits each of us in our own busy lives, and at times when works conveniently for each person. There are many who we each only connect with on a rare basis, and those who we interact with on a daily basis.

Why Blogging, now? I have felt the urge to express some of my thoughts, views, and wonderful discoveries in life. Facebook is great for small amounts of dialog, and tidbits of daily life. Flickr is wonderful for all my photography, and sharing to the world My view on life through a camera. Please visit My Flickr page!: 

www.flickr.com/photos/jonsview

 I also have a Giant Rubber Duck, named Just Ducky. There is a Facebook page for Him and all His Wild Adventures. (life cannot be viewed in the same manner once ya add a Giant Yellow Rubber Duck, and a cast of many other rubber ducks of all shapes, sizes, and of varying character.) Please visit Just Ducky's page: http://www.facebook.com/giantrubberduck

No Doubt, You will find I am The Most Unique Person you have ever met, or will meet. I am passionate about many things in life. I absolutely love and thrive on anything positive, honest, happy, and full of joy! I am not at all religious, but I am very spiritual. Do I attend Church? That would depend on what you define as church. If "church" is a building, then no. If "church" is where one goes to connect with the creator of our Earth, then yes. Nature is My church. I believe We have a wonderful God. (I have seen, felt, lived, and experienced way too much to deny that God exists). I am fine with those who insist otherwise, and it is not my purpose to attempt to convince them otherwise. It may surprise some to learn that I also fully believe in science. Some would say they cannot be both believed, and that it is one or the other. I believe they exist in harmony, and actually support one another.

I am fully supportive people doing as they wish in life, just as long as they are not harming anyone (themselves included). I support anyone being of any religious, political, sexuality affiliation they see fit for their own life. I do not see color, race, or other things that most use to divide our population. I see Humans as exactly that. Human. It should not matter that someone is of a different skin-color, a different ethnicity, a different religious, political, or sexual background than I am. Where I have the problem, is when someone thinks they are superior to another based on those beliefs, or that what they believe is the only way in life. Every single one of us is Human. That should be all that matters.

I was born with parts that would make me "Male".  In my belief, that is far too general a classification. I believe there is much more that makes-up whether a person is indeed a male, or female..... Or combinations that could go on endlessly as to what a person really is. I do not claim to be a male, in the typical sense. There are sooo many subjects on this alone, that I will save those further details for later, individual posts.

What about Nekkid? Yup! I live as much of life as is practical without clothes. I am not at all interested in being seen, or attracting attention for not wearing clothes. Nor am I sexual about it. (in fact, you will discover that I am The Most Non-sexual person!) To me there is much more to life than sex, or sexuality. Yup! I know I do not match most other humans in this belief. Anyplace I can be without clothes, I will. I do not break any laws, in doing so, nor do I Ever do this in places where people would get the impression I am trying to be an exhibitionist. Simply nekkid is not illegal in most places. Where it becomes illegal is when one is being an exhibitionist, sexual, obscene, or lewd. I Do none of the above...Ever! Sadly, Most of our society is under the belief that naked is somehow illegal. That is where the problems occur. Even Most police officers believe naked is illegal, and would arrest someone, before they figured out that person was in fact doing nothing wrong. Due to this belief, I am forced to wear clothes in most of main-stream society. Going to jail is one of those things that is on my list of things I will never do. (even for an occurrence that would later be deemed 'wrongful arrest') ( a Funny footnote on the same... Did you know the Supreme Court ruled Women are allowed to go topless anywhere a man is? And legally, too! Why do they not, then? Because most of our society has deemed breasts as sexual, and again most women do not want the hassle. They would be harassed, and possibly arrested before the officers understood their wrong-doing.)

There are so many topics I have brought-up on this post. I will, in time, expand on each of them, and many more, too! I am excited about starting my creative venture into this world of Blogging!  I Will likely piss many people off. That is to be expected when one expresses his own beliefs. Keep in mind, before you decide to get pissed.... I make it clear these are My Views, on MY Own Blog. I welcome open discussion, and even opposing views. But ya gotta play nice, and show respect to other humans. Some of the things I do not tolerate are: dishonesty, illegal activities, and people who are narrow-minded (believing others should only believe as they do). I will express strong views on many topics, because I can back those views up with a lifetime of searching for answers, digging up the facts, and having lived through a life that I would not consider an easy one. That said, Do I consider my views and opinions to be widely accepted by those who see, or hear them? Absolutely not.  I DO hope that another would be open enough to view them, and consider the merit, reasons, and truths behind them.... Just as I would do with your views.

Thanks For Reading!! Have a Wonderful Day! JOn~=:-)

P.S.... The Ads are generated automatically by Google... I have absolutely no say-so in the contect you see onthe ads. My appologies, if you see something that does not match my views. (but please let me know if you see something that I won't like!) :)